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I would first like to say that when considering Asperger’s Syndrome, you must realize that it is a form of Autism. But if you have any preconceived notions of what an Autistic person should look or act like, go ahead and toss those out right now. I can tell you after fifteen years of marriage to an Aspie, they’re all completely wrong. There is NO way to tell an Autistic person by simply looking at them.
It took me fifteen years to realize my wife had Asperger’s. And initially it was based on a joke. I saw a character in a movie that had Asperger’s and I saw in that character so many of my wife’s traits. I said, “Look, that girl is you personified!” To which something clicked in my wife and she realized, that just maybe I was right.  (So in retrospect, it was one of the few times in our marriage that my wife could say I was right about something!)

That's the story of my life. It's the story of many of us women with undiagnosed Asperger's, as well as many of the 'more capable' men. We were ridden so hard that we had to act 'normally', drilled so hard and so repeatedly, and perfected our masks so well, that by the time we're finally diagnosed, hardly anyone believes it and thus we're denied the support we desperately need. It's a horrible catch-22 that we're caught in: People demand that we behave like 'normal' people, then mock us when we don't behave in our natural way. More and more people are being diagnosed in middle-age, yet there is next to no support for them (I'm very, very fortunate, I live in one of the few cities in Canada that does offer services for late-diagnosed people, and am part of the team developing support services at one of our local autism support centres.) Older adults with Asperger's suffer in silence before and after diagnosis, behind their perfect masks, their faces are rotting and crumbling away.


Aspie dating nt

Aspie dating nt